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Dating Lessons From Teenagers

image1 They Are Excited To See Each Other When we were teenagers,  we’d spend all week looking forward to our date, gushing with  excitement. And we weren’t afraid to show it. How many of us do  that now, when we’re consumed with advice books telling us to  play hard to get, and not give too much too soon? Maybe we have  the wrong idea. “My 16-year-old son’s girlfriend came into the  office and surprised him. When he walked from the back of the office, she became excited and started jumping up and down and yelled his name while running to jump on him.

My husband heard this ordeal so I asked him, ‘Do I greet you that way?’ He looked up from his computer and sternly said, “Never!” I’m not a teen but I do suggest that women act like cheerleaders when their man comes home from work. I can assure he will have a more anticipating outlook of going home to his wife!” says Shannon Battle, LCAS, LPC, CSOTS, Clinical Director, Family Services of America.

Group Dates As adults, we may go out with another couple now and again, but for teens, group dating is the norm! “One thing that teens do on dates that adults should do is go out with a group. The stars are great about networking and going to parties as a group. They have a crowd and they easily meet more people. I think adults often want to go out in pairs or individually. I think adults should phone a friend and go with a group,” says Lisa Niver of WeSaidGoTravel, who worked as a set teacher on Nickelodeon’s new show, Bella and the Bulldogs.

They’re Sneaking AroundAs adults, if we want to take a date home — and, obviously, if they are into it as well — we just do. When we were teens, we had to be more creative — and that effort was part of the fun! “Most teens don’t have a warm, comfortable, private bedroom to which they can retreat at the end of the night, so they get creative. From cars and theaters to parks and even roller coaster rides, they’re up for almost any challenge — are you?” says Astroglide’s resident sexologist, Dr. Jess.

They Relax And Have Fun As adults, we’re trained to look at the bigger picture — are they right for me? Where is this going? For teenagers, they are better at living in — and enjoying — the moment. “Teenagers realize that dates are supposed to be fun — not work! They tease and flirt without worrying if they’ll have a future with their date. This doesn’t mean they’re not nervous; but they’re not in their heads so much,” says Andrea Syrtash, Relationship Expert and author of It’s Okay to Sleep With Him on the First Date: And Every Other Rule of Dating, Debunked.

Curated from Dating Lessons From Teenagers – AskMen

 

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